If you’re a man who is trying to step into the Dominant role in your relationship, you have probably had a point where you felt like she relentlessly fought back against your leadership.
Even if she’s agreed to follow it already.
And then find yourself asking yourself what the hell you’re really d...
Women are the gatekeepers of sex. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment.Â
We think of this often in terms of how people find and connect to new partners when they are available an on the market.Â
Men are the ones deciding whether or not they will make a commitment, because if a woman is interested...
This post was originally written in the summer of 2022, and it's being reshared now, unedited, as a part of our move to a new website and blog platform.Â
This moment marked a big shift in me as a Dominant, where I learned a lesson that still reverberates in our love and my teaching. The value of my...
I want Dawn to be a selfish submissive.
Humans are all selfish creatures, and we are all better off when we allow ourselves to want enjoyment out of our lives.
This doesn’t mean that our happiness requires the sacrifice of someone else.
People pleasers act as though they are being “unselfish”. But this...
What are you thankful for today?
This morning I started journaling about gratitude. It’s where I like to start because it always brings joy and peace to focus on what I am thankful for.
Today, I am thankful for suffering.
What?! Yes, I know. Keep on reading.
But truly, I am.
You know why? Because it’s th...
It’s up to me as Dawn’s Dominant to know her completely, to see her deeply, to quite literally feel what she’s feeling.
A submissive’s needs must come before a Dominant’s wants, always. Surrender requires safety, and no submissive can feel truly safe if her needs aren’t being looked after by the on...
As Dawn’s Dominant, it is my responsibility to lead. To make decisions. To look at the entirety of a situation and make the best decision I can.Â
To do this well, I first need to be grounded within myself. I have to be comfortable with my strength, and confident in my own ability to make wise decis...
This post was originally written by Dawn in February 2022 and is being moved here as we migrate to our new blog and website platform. This inner child work has gone much deeper since this was written, but we're moving it here unedited.
Just love yourself. It sounds so simple.
Just be yourself. I...
Dominance is like a river. Deep submission is like floating down this river. I’ve used this analogy with Dawn for years.
I also used the analogy of grabbing onto the shore of the river being like grasping for control. If you’re in a steady current and you try to stop, the water will w
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The purpose of this post is to explore the differences between people pleasing and submission inside of a loving Dominant/submissive relationship. Assumptions will be made here. Namely, that the relationship between Dom and sub is healthy and loving, that the Dominant is respectful and desires conse...
I recently received a question from a fellow submissive in our community asking
“How do you maintain complete submission in an emotional conversation or situation?”
I found that to be a very great question so I want to expand on that for others as well.
This post was originally made in 2021, tw...
We received a question the other day from a submissive asking how she could keep her Dominant on track, so that he could then keep her on track.
Dominance can be many things, but one of the greatest delineating factors is between Dominance as a practice and Dominance as a way of being.
