On neediness, a man's closed heart, and the love he can only give himselfÂ
There is a question that almost every man asks when he first encounters this teaching, and he usually asks it with an edge in his voice, because he is certain he has found the flaw in it.
The question, in its various forms...
Control Was Never Strength
Men, I am going to spend this whole piece telling you that you need to lead. Lead your relationship. Lead your life. Take a position, know what you stand for, hold the ground, go first. And in the same breath I am going to tell you that you control almost nothing. You do ...
On embodiment, authentic desire, and the trust a woman has to keep with herself
There is a question that almost every woman who starts down the path of embodiment eventually asks, and she usually asks it with some embarrassment, because she suspects she is missing something obvious.
The question, ...
By Dawn
There was a time in my life when I couldn't say the word porn out loud.
Not because I was shy. Because it triggered something deep in me. The word itself felt dangerous, dirty, off limits. If you had told me a few years ago that I would end up as one of the fastest growing creators on Only...
A note to anyone finding Infinite Devotion for the first time, and to everyone who's been here from the beginning.
Three years ago, this podcast launched under the name Infinite Devotion.
A year or so later, it became Dom Sub Devotion. The reasoning made sense at the time. Dawn and I were going ...
Most people who've watched their relationship lose its energy have a story about it. The intimacy started fading around year three. The desire slowed down sometime after the kids arrived. The connection gradually started feeling more like a business partnership than a marriage.
And because we're wi...
How the Lack of Masculine Presence Taught Her to Control Everything
Episode 136 of the Infinite Devotion Podcast
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Last week I talked about killing the nice guy in me. About how passive compliance, people-pleasing, and the avoidance ...
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This is the written companion to Infinite Devotion Episode 135.
Listen to the full episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube.
For a long time, I was a good man.
I was generous. I was patient. I worked hard, I provided, I didn't complain. I put her needs first. I showed up. I tried.
An...
This is the full written companion to Episode 134 of the Infinite Devotion Podcast. You can listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube.
I was called sensitive as a boy.
Music wrecked me in the best possible way. As a teenager, as a young man in my early twenties, I could feel things move thro...
You're Not In Love, You're In Control: Why Secure Attachment Is Still a Cage
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There's a word most people have never heard. It comes from non-monogamous communities, which means a lot of people in traditional relationships
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This episode of Dom Sub Devotion features questions that were asked inside of the new Infinite Devotion Community by some of our founding members. I recorded this episode (and wrote this blog post for those who prefer to read rather than listen) to show you the kinds of conversations that are happen...
 For years, people have been asking us the same question.
Where do we go?
Not where do we go to find a hook-up. Not where do we go to post pictures of our kink and collect followers. Where do we go to actually talk about this? To find other people who are living this the way we live it, who take p...
