This is the full written companion to Episode 134 of the Infinite Devotion Podcast. You can listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube.
I was called sensitive as a boy.
Music wrecked me in the best possible way. As a teenager, as a young man in my early twenties, I could feel things move thro...
You're Not In Love, You're In Control: Why Secure Attachment Is Still a Cage
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There's a word most people have never heard. It comes from non-monogamous communities, which means a lot of people in traditional relationships
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This episode of Dom Sub Devotion features questions that were asked inside of the new Infinite Devotion Community by some of our founding members. I recorded this episode (and wrote this blog post for those who prefer to read rather than listen) to show you the kinds of conversations that are happen...
 For years, people have been asking us the same question.
Where do we go?
Not where do we go to find a hook-up. Not where do we go to post pictures of our kink and collect followers. Where do we go to actually talk about this? To find other people who are living this the way we live it, who take p...
Selfishness is something that is perceived almost universally as a negative trait. And for many men who harbor a desire to hold power inside of a power exchange relationship dynamic, the idea of what power means is so conflated with this negative view of selfishness that it’s hardly a surprise that ...
This blog post goes along with episode 129 of the Dom Sub Devotion Podcast, "The Truth About Monogamy, Non-Monogamy, and Devotion.Â
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Everyone has a position on monogamy right now.
The red pill crowd says commitment is for men without options....
At some point, almost everyone who wants dominance and submission in their relationship faces the same wall: how do you bring this up to a partner who doesn't know it's coming?
It's one of the most common questions we get, and it deserves a real answer. Not a surface-level "just be honest with them...
There is a question that shows up in my inbox more than almost any other. It comes from women, usually women who are already in relationships, women who want to experience submission but feel stuck. It sounds like this:
How do I feel submissive when my life requires me to be in control all the time...
Most of what I share about Dominance and submission focuses on what's possible. The depth of intimacy, the polarity, the aliveness that comes when two people commit to this kind of conscious relating. That's what Dawn and I talk about most of the time, because we genuinely believe in what this pat...
By the time you're reading this, Dawn and I will have celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary. We've been in a 24/7 Dom/sub dynamic for seven of those years. She's worn a collar for seven years. She's called herself my submissive for seven years. And yet we've still spent more of our marriage outsid...
Most people arrive at Dominance and submission carrying codependent patterns they don't even know they have. And the hard truth is that D/s doesn't dissolve those patterns. It amplifies them, because the structure of power exchange gives those patterns a very convincing disguise.
Seven years into a...
Most men are absolutely terrified of desire.
Not the pursuit of desire. Not the chase. Not the conquest.
They're terrified of the feeling of wanting something they don't have the power to control getting.
Because unfulfilled desire, wanting without the certainty of having, feels like weakness. It...
