There's a question I hear from men all the time. Some version of it comes up over and over: how do I lead? What am I supposed to take charge of? When you try to picture leading in a relationship, the frame is usually too narrow. You imagine making a decision about money, or planning a date, or havin...
Dawn and I recorded this week's episode outside, sitting in folding lawn chairs at the edge of a lake in northern Wisconsin. Birds, bugs, a breeze, and a spider that made it into my nose partway through. Almost three years of doing this podcast and we had never once recorded outdoors. It turned into...
This post is a full written exploration of Episode 144 of the Infinite Devotion podcast, part two of a two-part series. You can listen to the episode on the podcast page, on Apple Podcasts, on Spotify, or on YouTube. Part one covered abundance and scarcity as general ideas. This one takes you into h...
Picture yourself in a car. You want to go somewhere, so you press the accelerator all the way down. At the same time, your other foot is pressed all the way down on the brake. And just to make sure, you've also got the emergency brake pulled up as far as it goes.
You are trying to get somewhere. Yo...
 On neediness, a man's closed heart, and the love he can only give himselfÂ
There is a question that almost every man asks when he first encounters this teaching, and he usually asks it with an edge in his voice, because he is certain he has found the flaw in it.
The question, in its various forms...
Control Was Never Strength
Men, I am going to spend this whole piece telling you that you need to lead. Lead your relationship. Lead your life. Take a position, know what you stand for, hold the ground, go first. And in the same breath I am going to tell you that you control almost nothing. You do ...
On embodiment, authentic desire, and the trust a woman has to keep with herself
There is a question that almost every woman who starts down the path of embodiment eventually asks, and she usually asks it with some embarrassment, because she suspects she is missing something obvious.
The question, ...
By Dawn
There was a time in my life when I couldn't say the word porn out loud.
Not because I was shy. Because it triggered something deep in me. The word itself felt dangerous, dirty, off limits. If you had told me a few years ago that I would end up as one of the fastest growing creators on Only...
A note to anyone finding Infinite Devotion for the first time, and to everyone who's been here from the beginning.
Three years ago, this podcast launched under the name Infinite Devotion.
A year or so later, it became Dom Sub Devotion. The reasoning made sense at the time. Dawn and I were going ...
Most people who've watched their relationship lose its energy have a story about it. The intimacy started fading around year three. The desire slowed down sometime after the kids arrived. The connection gradually started feeling more like a business partnership than a marriage.
And because we're wi...
How the Lack of Masculine Presence Taught Her to Control Everything
Episode 136 of the Infinite Devotion Podcast
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Last week I talked about killing the nice guy in me. About how passive compliance, people-pleasing, and the avoidance ...
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This is the written companion to Infinite Devotion Episode 135.
Listen to the full episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube.
For a long time, I was a good man.
I was generous. I was patient. I worked hard, I provided, I didn't complain. I put her needs first. I showed up. I tried.
An...
