This blog post goes along with episode 129 of the Dom Sub Devotion Podcast, "The Truth About Monogamy, Non-Monogamy, and Devotion.Â
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Everyone has a position on monogamy right now.
The red pill crowd says commitment is for men without options....
At some point, almost everyone who wants dominance and submission in their relationship faces the same wall: how do you bring this up to a partner who doesn't know it's coming?
It's one of the most common questions we get, and it deserves a real answer. Not a surface-level "just be honest with them...
There is a question that shows up in my inbox more than almost any other. It comes from women, usually women who are already in relationships, women who want to experience submission but feel stuck. It sounds like this:
How do I feel submissive when my life requires me to be in control all the time...
Most of what I share about Dominance and submission focuses on what's possible. The depth of intimacy, the polarity, the aliveness that comes when two people commit to this kind of conscious relating. That's what Dawn and I talk about most of the time, because we genuinely believe in what this pat...
By the time you're reading this, Dawn and I will have celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary. We've been in a 24/7 Dom/sub dynamic for seven of those years. She's worn a collar for seven years. She's called herself my submissive for seven years. And yet we've still spent more of our marriage outsid...
Most people arrive at Dominance and submission carrying codependent patterns they don't even know they have. And the hard truth is that D/s doesn't dissolve those patterns. It amplifies them, because the structure of power exchange gives those patterns a very convincing disguise.
Seven years into a...
Most men are absolutely terrified of desire.
Not the pursuit of desire. Not the chase. Not the conquest.
They're terrified of the feeling of wanting something they don't have the power to control getting.
Because unfulfilled desire, wanting without the certainty of having, feels like weakness. It...
The Gasoline & The Match: Understanding Feminine Desire
Most women have never learned to simply want.
They've learned to want and immediately strategize. Want and plan. Want and work toward. Want and figure out how to get it themselves.
They've learned that wanting without getting is uncomfortabl...
Based on Episode 119 of the DOM Sub Devotion Podcast
Growth requires the willingness to reconsider what you thought you knew. After seven years of living in a 24/7 dominant/submissive dynamic and several years of teaching these concepts, I've discovered that my understanding continues to deepen in ...
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You've probably read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover. If you haven't, stop reading this and go get it right now. I'll wait.
https://a.co/d/15BXtzz - << Link to book here
It's one of those books that every man in the self-development space has on his shelf. It's the book that wakes m...
Most people who want a dominant/submissive dynamic are only applying those principles about 2% of the time. Then they wonder why the dynamic keeps falling apart.
Let me break down the math for you. In any given week, 2% of the hours would equal about three and a half hours. That's actually a pret...
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Let me ask you a direct question: Are you strong enough to be a Dominant?
Not strong enough to tell her what to do. Not strong enough to enforce rules or play out scenes. I'm asking if you're strong enough to actually lead her.
Because here's what most men don't understand when they step into d...
