All relationships have power dynamics. D/s just discusses them openly and negotiates the terms.
Decisions are always made inside of relationships. Most often, what we see in relationships around us, is that one person “wears the pants” and the other is the follower by default.Â
The leader is not i...
Submission can take the form of behaviors. Often, these are tasks, commands, and activities that the submissive partner is given by the Dominant, for a variety of reasons.Â
These reasons often include giving her ways to show her obedience, training her to behave in the way that the Dominant desires...
Let’s break down one of the biggest misconceptions in this lifestyle.Â
Being in a Dominant/submissive relationship DOES NOT mean that you have to be into any specific sexual acts associated with BDSM.Â
I believe that this association is the root cause of why we hear so many people reach out to us ...
We share a lot of the positive experiences and dynamics that we have, but no relationship has everything perfect all the time.
Ours is pretty great. The disagreements and power struggles in most relationships we see don’t happen much with us, and adding D/s dynamics to our marriage ha
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I would like to thank one of our Instagram followers for the inspiration for this post! In a comment, she asked:
I’m interested in the knitty gritty details of how you use your authority, and specific tasks and scenarios in which you tell her exactly what to do. Do you tell her what to wear e...
Have you ever thought that it sounded paradoxical that an owned submissive speaks about feeling so completely free?
This post aims to explain how this phenomenon has played out in our relationship, and how Dawn’s freedom grows with every piece of her life that she voluntarily releases into my
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The ability to have anything you want from your submissive is intoxicating. It’s a thrill knowing that, within established limits, you can have anything you want from her, at any time.Â
And chances are, she will enjoy giving it to you and gain a sense of pleasure and fulfillment from being given th...
When Andrew first asked me to be his submissive, I was a little surprised. My only experience with this was reading the 50 Shades of Gray books. He was very careful and deliberate in his explanation of what a Dom/sub relationship meant to him, and how it was different than what I’d read. He wante...
Dawn has used the term “perfectionist” to describe herself, and its something I’ve worked very hard to help her let go of.Â
“Perfectionist” is a label that she gave herself, or a label that someone gave her when she was young, that she took on and made a part of her identity. The truth is, though, ...
Note: This post was originally published in April 2021, when we were fairly new to sharing our Dom/sub dynamic online. A lot has changed and grown for us since then, but the heart behind this post still remains true, and I'm resharing it unedited for that reason.Â
We’ve been more open about our D...
