Dom Sub Devotion Episode 79: Dom/sub is so much more than kink...it's deep intimacy

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Most people think intimacy is about sex. Or sharing your feelings. Or cuddling on the couch after a long day.

It’s not.

Real intimacy is far more dangerous than that.

It will dismantle every mask you’ve spent your life carefully putting on.

It will rip away your comfort, your control, and every safe little story you’ve built about who you think you’re supposed to be.

And when it’s real—when it’s embodied, lived, and chosen—intimacy will destroy you.

That’s what this episode is about.

It’s not about kink.

It’s not about protocols, contracts, or collars.

It’s about the kind of devotion, polarity, and surrender that will break you down—and build you back up as the man or woman you were always meant to be.

For years, my wife Dawn and I lived this work out loud.

We built our business and our lives around a 24/7 Dominant/submissive marriage.

But somewhere along the way, we realized what we were really doing wasn’t about roles or labels.

It was about truth.

The truth of who we are without performance.

The truth of what it means to stand in masculine leadership or surrender into feminine flow.

The truth of how terrifying and exhilarating it is to drop the act and be fully seen.

That’s what this work is.

Whether or not you ever call yourself Dominant, submissive, masculine, feminine, kinky, or anything else—it doesn’t matter.

The path is the same:

 • To become fully known, you have to be willing to show up without the mask.

 • To experience real polarity, you have to stop neutralizing yourself to feel safe.

 • To live a life of deep love, hot sex, lasting connection—you have to stop playing it safe.

You’ll hear me say it in this episode over and over again:

This isn’t about control. It’s not about performance. It’s about devotion. 

And devotion, in the deepest sense, will demand everything from you.

The masculine surrender is emotional.

The feminine surrender is physical.

Both partners are called to let go of who they’ve been pretending to be.

Because when you do, everything starts to shift.

The relationship, yes—but also your entire life.

The polarity that gets created when a man leads with grounded, trustworthy strength and a woman softens into her receptive, radiant essence—that’s not just sexual chemistry.

That’s the structure of the universe itself.

It’s what animates every passionate relationship.

It’s what brings us back to life.

And the more you lean into that, the more everything changes.

You stop performing.

You stop hiding.

You stop playing it safe.

You start living in a way that requires you to rise to meet your own potential.

It’s not easy.

But it’s worth it.

Because when you build a relationship on this kind of truth, on this kind of devotion, you don’t just heal your relationship—you heal yourself.

You stop feeling numb.

You stop wondering where the spark went.

You stop living small.

And you start living fully, wildly, intimately alive.

If you’re ready for that…

If you’re ready to let the parts of you that are performative, guarded, ego-driven fall away…

If you’re ready to feel love, sex, power, and presence in a way you’ve never felt before…

Then listen to this episode.

It will destroy you in all the right ways.

And it will set you free.